In my last post I talked about how your values affect your productivity, so maybe you want to review it as this one builds up on it. In short knowing your values will increase your productivity mainly because you will save a lot of time in the long run when it comes to making decisions.
So many people take a lot of time thinking about whether they should do something or not. This is mostly the case because they’re uncertain about their own values.
Another important thing is that a lot of your dissatisfaction, lack of self-confidence, and overall unhappiness derives from the incongruence of your behavior and your values. When you act upon your beliefs, you prove to yourself that you are reliable and trustworthy. If you don’t, you reinforce the opposite, you prove to yourself that can not trust yourself. You decide what this does to you.
So how do you know your values?
One approach is to sit down with pen and paper and start writing down all situations you can remember where you felt bad about your own decisions. Why did you feel that way? What was incongruent and what would have felt ‚right‘ instead? From there you can then start digging for the underlying value.